If you're over 50 and thinking of finding someone special, the prospect of dating can be intimidating. However, it's never too late to find the love of your life.
There are countless men and women who have found happiness with a new partner in middle age or even later. You could be one of them.
At any stage of life, it’s nice to have someone to cosy up to on a cold night, to share a meal out with, or have by our side on holiday. Fortunately, there are plenty of single men and women over 50 who hope to find a companion. Among them is just the person for you – so read our over 50s dating tips and go for it!
How to find love after 50
1. Use a dating site for the over 50s
Online dating is an excellent way to meet new people. More and more couples are meeting on the internet and forming lasting bonds. It’s not just young people – the older generation has embraced dating sites too, particularly sites that target their age group.
Some of the best dating sites offer free services, though you can get a more tailored experience through a subscription service. A range of apps specialise in over 50s dating, while others simply tend to attract older users.
If you’re thinking of dating over 50, you may benefit from joining Telegraph Dating. Here you can browse a select range of profiles of single men over 50 and single women over 50. One of them could be just the person you’re looking for.
2. Build an eye-catching online profile
Writing a dating profile can be nerve-wracking. If you feel timid writing about yourself, ask a friend to list your strengths and include these in your profile.
Mention your interests so that potential partners can find out what you have in common. You could also allude to your values or religion if these are an important part of your life.
There’s no harm in reading other profiles for inspiration. However, make sure your profile reflects who you really are. It’s always best to be honest from the word go.
When it comes to photos, upload pictures that show you smiling, preferably in natural light. Action shots can work well too. A total of four or five photos is ideal.
Finally, check your profile for spelling and grammar – and you’re ready!
3. Take up a hobby
Later life is the perfect time to take up a new activity. Learning new skills can boost your mental wellbeing and is associated with a reduced risk of dementia.
If you're thinking of dating over 50, taking up a hobby is a fun way to connect with like-minded people in a relaxed environment. Common pastimes adopted by older people include cooking classes, book clubs and choirs. Some people choose to learn a new language or a musical instrument.
The type of activity you pick is entirely up to you, but it’s a good idea to find something age-appropriate with a social aspect that will put you in contact with lots of new people.
4. Refresh your wardrobe
Getting back into dating over 50 is the perfect excuse to clear out your wardrobe and stock up on some stylish, well-fitting items that will make a good impression and make you feel fantastic.
Why not donate clothes you haven’t worn in years to a charity shop? That will make room at home for some high-quality garments such as a smart coat, a nice pair of jeans and a cashmere jumper.
Feeling good in your clothes can work wonders for your self-confidence, a real advantage for over 50s dating.
For style ideas for women over 50, The Telegraph fashion team is here to help. On shopping trips, you could also hire a personal shopper or stylist, allowing you to sit back while an expert scours the rails for you.
5. Open up to family and friends
Having a good support network of friends and family members is vital if you’re going to pursue a healthy romantic relationship.
If you’re finding it difficult to tell your children that you’re dating over 50, just remember that honesty early on is always the best policy. You don’t need to fill them in on every flirtatious text, but it’s important to communicate about the big stuff happening in your life.
You never know – your children may even have some dating advice for you.
6. Start taking exercise classes
Another top tip for mature dating is regular exercise in a group. By joining a fitness class or sports club, you may find other singles over 50 who are looking for a companion.
A running or walking club is a great way to meet people, as you can chat on the go (depending on the pace). Or perhaps you’d like to improve your tennis by attending group lessons. Even water sports such as standup paddleboarding and wild swimming have their own clubs these days.
For indoor activities, your local gym is sure to offer classes such as yoga, spinning or zumba. Whatever sport you choose, exercise can be a fun way to socialise, and has huge benefits for your physical and mental health.
7. Go on a solo holiday
Over 50s often have more financial stability than the younger generation, so tend to spend more on travel. Use this to your advantage. Travelling solo can lead to exciting chance encounters, while you discover parts of the world you've always dreamed of visiting.
In later life, you have the experience to arrange the kind of trip that suits you. You’ll be able to plan your own itinerary, explore at your own pace, and make connections with people you might never have met had you been travelling with others.
Many tour operators offer holidays specifically for solo travellers, allowing you to join a group of people who have all booked the trip on their own. Some companies even set a minimum age of 50, so you know you will be travelling with people of a similar age. There's nothing like a holiday romance, and who knows where it could lead?
8. Find out about your date’s previous relationships
Over 50s dating often hope to find a partner when a long relationship has recently come to an end. Whether they are divorced, separated or bereaved, your date may have had a significant other that has left an imprint on their lives.
Before you embark on a relationship with this person, it can be useful to know what went wrong in the past. If there was a bone of contention that you can foresee causing problems again, you at least have some warning.
On practical terms, your date may still have contact with their ex partner, for example for divorce proceedings or co-parenting children. Emotionally, you will understand your partner better if you know a little about their personal history.
Don’t pry into the other person’s love life on your first date, but on later dates it is quite normal to discuss past relationships in a mature way.
9. Start saying yes
The tips we’ve offered so far could be summed up in one phrase: be more adventurous.
If you want to embark on a new relationship, you’ll have to make some changes. The best way to do that is to get into the habit of saying “yes” to positive opportunities that come your way.
And yes, that means taking your friends up on all those dinner-party invitations you may have been dodging.
10. Don't rush into anything
However tempting it is to drive off into the sunset with someone you have just met, try to spend time to form a lasting relationship. To avoid rushing into a commitment, keep in touch with your friends and family while you are dating and arrange social events that don't include your new companion. That time will come.
11. Enjoy yourself
Treat over 50s dating as an adventure. A whole new chapter of your life is about to begin, so embrace it. If you adopt a positive attitude, you will lift your own mood as well as the moods of people around you. In the end, you will attract people by the way you make them feel. A smile goes a long way.
Are you over 50 and already dating? Remember these two rules:
1. Stay safe in the bedroom
At any age, sex is one of life's joys. For those over 50, a new sexual partner can be especially liberating when a long relationship has come to an end. Having sex with someone new can be a real adventure. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things, but always follow the cardinal rule: use condoms and other forms of protection if you aren’t sure about your partner’s sexual health.
2. Take your time
Remember that it’s perfectly OK to take things slowly. While sex and relationships may not be a new experience, it can take time to feel comfortable with a new person. Bear in mind that there’s no rush to meet somebody, and that it’s better to wait for someone with whom you have the right connection than to force something that’s not working.
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